Thursday, July 29, 2010

The times have changed

This post I posted almost exactly a year ago. I really like this post, and since many of us collegiate ladies are heading back to school in the coming weeks, I thought it would be appropriate to re-post. Enjoy!

I have some things to rant about in this post. First off being out to dinner "dress code" and second being college "dress code". Last weekend, as you read I went to two very nice restaurants for dinner. To both dinners, I wore semi-casual dresses, but dressed them up with shoes/hair/jewelry/makeup. The first night, when bRc took me out to dinner, we literally went to one of the fanciest places in our city. I wore a nicer Lilly dress, and bRc wore khakis with a tucked in button down and belt. For the most part, there were couples dining at this restaurant and many looked nice. However, there were several couples that were in jeans and very very casual clothing. I'm all about having freedom to wear whatever, but if you are going to go out and spend $100 on dinner, why not at least put a little effort into your clothing? I do admit I am bias on this whole rant because I tend to always look at peoples clothing because I really have a love for fashion, and love to dress up at any chance I get.
The next night, my family of 4 went out to dinner in a nice area of town, and had a very nice/delicious dinner. I wore a black anne taylor shift, with satin flip flops. My mom wore a paisley dress and pearls, and my sister wore a Lilly shirtdress with heeled sandals. We all looked nice, presentable, and well groomed. This unfortunately was not true of others dining in the same restaurant. Many were clad in jeans, t-shirts, and downright very casual clothing. This may have been appropriate clothing for lunch, but not for a Saturday night dinner.

My point really comes down to this: Why doesn't anyone dress up or at least nicely to go out to dinner on weekends anymore? I understand that if you go to the Olive garden, that wearing a t-shirt and jeans is totally fine. But when it comes to decently nice restaurants, even ones such as the Cheesecake factory, why not put a little effort into your outfit? Throw on a jersey dress, or add heels to your outfit. Maybe wear a dress you have been saving to wear for something/anything.

I know all of the blogs that I read, probably can relate with me here, because as far as I'm concerned you all have exceptional taste and style. Why do you think people have decided that casual is appropriate for anywhere at all?

My second rant goes out to sweat pant wearing college students:
Dear fellow college ladies,
Why do you think it is appropriate to wear sweatpants to class? I don't care how hungover you are, or how late you were up studying for a test, or how comfortable you are. By wearing sweatpants, you give out the vibe that you have no style, no respect for your professor, no respect for the class, no respect for others around you, and no respect for yourself. While I do enjoy the comfort of warm sweatpants, sweatshirts, and sorority t-shirts (in the comfort of my dorm), I do not wear these articles of clothing beyond my room unless I am heading to the gym because I know I can do better than that. You should try and look your best at all times, because you never know who you will meet during your day. Plus, doesn't looking good make you feel a little better about yourself? Wouldn't you liked to hear someone say, "I like your dress"? Don't you want your peers to know that you have enough respect for yourself, to pull yourself together and make it to class looking the best you can? Just because your parents are not around to tell you what to wear, wouldn't you want to make them proud by wearing what they would want you to wear? You are called a lady for a reason, so live up to the name and show off your rocking wardrobe, sense of taste, and make you proud of yourself!
Yours truly,
sCe

I'm sorry if this offends anyone, but just maybe, a sweat pant wearing college student will stop by my blog at some point and read this, and just maybe it will change their minds and they will dress nicely for class! Just a thought.. what do you think? Do you have a rebuttal for this? I really would love to hear it, because I do love a good pair of sweatpants to lounge in, and I do understand that they are very comfortable. Let me know what you think!
Yours,
sCe

44 comments:

Mariam said...

Oh my word! I totally agree! Some colleges I looked at were crossed off the list the second I saw every kid wearing sweatpants. And about the restaurants - we went to a nice place for dinner yesterday and same things - lots of people in jeans.

short southern momma said...

I think too many people take going out to a nice restaurant for granted these days. I know it used to be a big deal to get to go out to a nice place so you would wear your Sunday best. Plain and simple...laziness because it just isnt a big deal anymore (am I way off base here?). Butttt, on the other hand, when I was in college I had a newborn, so I am sure I wore sweatpants once or twice....badbad. LOL

Sweet Caroline said...

Oh sCe you crack me up. But I agree with you in what you are saying. I dress up for class and then when I'm back in my room I change into my sweats. There is a time for "class" and a time for "comfortable".

katie c said...

i COMPLETELY agree with you here... i have a little saying, (i honestly don't know who said it first) "i wish people with money would get class and i wish people with class would get money!"

every time i see people underdressed, i cringe!! can you say, tacky???

okay, my little rant and rave is done... :) glad to get that off of my chest!!

Piper Jacquelyn said...

I don't think you're being out of line at all! If I have to see one more group of girls in matching VS sweatpants with uggs or rainboots tromping around campus I'm going to barf. Ha!

Veuve and Varsity said...

I am blogging in reply to this!

Allison said...

That's good. I wonder about some of that stuff myself. The sorority kind of kept girls in check from dressing that wy at class. We were supposed to look pretty decent we went to class. If you wear something that looks like you wore it to bed UNACCEPTABLE..college students are adults and should act it.

Kerree said...

I don't know why people wouldn't want to get dressed up when they go out to dinner. Being a mum I practically live in jeans and t-shirts so I look forward to dressing up for dinner. They can wear jeans anytime.
I was reading a wedding photography blog the other day and they said if you are taking pics of the couple coming down the aisle you should sit the best dressed guests nearest the aisle because you don't want someone wearing jeans to spoil the shot. I wish my first reaction was 'who would wear jeans to a wedding' but my husband's friends wife wore hipster jeans and a midriff halter top to mine. I was glad when she said she was changing for the reception until she came back in the same hipsters and a different coloured midriff halter top! Skank!
And as for the college students, I wear trackpants to bed sometimes, I would never wear them in public but I wouldn't wear what the woman in the photo is wearing even to bed!

Lauren said...

You are too cute! I always enjoy looking nice....It makes ME feel better(even if I am going to the grocery store...ha)!

Perambulations through Pittsbrugh said...

No I completely agree! I think our society has lost so much today. A lot of it may be politics, social movements, I'm not sure. Ironicly, my husband and I are polar opposites and he HATES dressing up. He's always appropriate for the situation, but he despises it. He says he just doesn't feel comfortable and feels hot and constricted in buttondowns and such. Hm, well to each their own. Great post!

C in VA said...

Sometimes I feel like I am the only person who won't wear sweatpants beyond the home! How much harder is it to put some jeans on!? I know many people are fans of uggs, but I find them shapeless and styleless. Don't even get me started on Juicy tracksuits.

The Wife of a Fisherman said...

I totally agree with you. I don't feel like I have started my day until I have had a shower, done my hair, and picked out something nice/flattering to wear. I don't even let my child go out in public unless he is bathed, changed out of his pjs, and has on a cute outfit..and he is 3 mos. old! How you dress/take care of yourself is a direct reflection of you as a person.

Perambulations through Pittsbrugh said...

So I just HAD to write a piggy back post off of yours on my blog!

Kerry said...

I totally agree with you, I always cringe when I see people wearing jeans, t-shirts and SNEAKERS! at a nice resturant. Truthfully, if they can afford to eat there, they can afford a nice pair of khakis and a polo, which would be an improvement! I usually tend to be a bit overdressed for occasions, but I feel that just shows how much you care! As for the sweatpants, when I visited colleges, that was one of the things that made me reconsider applying/ attending a specific college! It just shows how little they care! Lucky for me, there seems to be few sweatpants and pjs worn to class where I'm going!! I would love to read a post with outfits you've worn to class as inspiration, I've been stressing about what to wear for the first day! Have a lovely Monday and thanks for the get-well message!!

Prissy Southern Prep said...

I totally agree with this post!! The other night, we were out to dinner with some friends, and I had on a lilly dress. We were eating at a nicer restaurant, and I know that was dressed appropriately. But, there were so many people dressed "down" that I almost made myself feel overdressed. Um, no! I quickly talked myself out of that!! My idea of a "lazy day" outfit for classes is denim capris, a polo shirt, and a polo, lacoste, or monogrammed hat! Of course, I still wear jewelry, makeup, etc. The easy part about wearing a hat is that I just throw my hair in a pony tail if I don't have time to wash and dry.

Anyway, thanks for posting this!! You are right on the money! =)

JMW said...

It's amazing how casual EVERYTHING has become. I enjoy dressing up and looking nice when I go out. I sometimes can't believe what I see in restaurants and even church these days. I see the interns at work wearing flip flops - I guess if they wear them with a skirt that means it's okay? Dress the part, people!

The Southern Housewife said...

Goodness gracious! You took the words right out of my mouth! I agree with you 110%. Seriously- I never understand why people think others want to see them in their pajamas in public!

PS- I have a big suprise over at my place for you!!! *hint, hint!!!*

Gwen said...

My thought is that people don't take dining out as an event anymore. We all do it so often that it's just a way of life not a treat. But I'm proud of you for sticking with it and dressing up for the evening!!! YAY!!!

Lauren Kirven said...

Oh I totally agree! Even in highschool, I am NOT the one to wear sweatpants to school! Those are for sleeping! Have some CLASS when you dress for class! Haha! Love this post.. it is cute as always & I completely agree with the entire thing!:)

thepreppyprincess said...

Good for you Miss Summer Wind, clearly you hit a nerve with many of who couldn't agree more. Thank you for articulating so eloquently what many of us are thinking!

Have a lovely week!
tp

Rachel said...

I really attempt to get dressed up for these occassions. I also agree with your take on college students. What. The. Heck. Uggs and yoga pants are NOT suitable for anything ever. :P

Headbands and Hand Bags said...

I could not agree more! I love an excuse to look nice and dress up a little, dinner is a great excuse! But I have also seen so many people looking so casual! And the grunge look out and about, has got to go! I am all baout being comfortable, but PJ's are not for public! I think this post was a great etiquette reminder!

Heather said...

I love this post, I don't know why cause I am not in college anymore, but nonetheless, I love to look cute and get dressed up! I love your blog and just started following you. Oh and I love the republican sign on the side of your blog! :)

skinnybitching said...

touche! i agree with you whole heartedly. i always make a point to look my best when leaving the house, even if it's just a quick run down the street to the market. it's sad that more people don't pride in their appearence and the way the present themselves. the husband and i even dress up for a gourmet dinner at home! oh and sweatpants... don't get me started with sweatpants! haha!

anyways, love your blog and can't wait to read more!

KAC said...

What a GREAT post!! I completely agree with you...I always thought that I overdressed for occasions but I think it's really just about looking presentable. Now I'm not going to lie and say I have definitely had times when I'm running errands I'm in a tshirt and shorts but I believe that when you're going out to a nice dinner you should always look your best!

I also agree with the college sweatpants thing...I'm lucky in that most students at my college campus dress fairly nicely but whenever I see someone in gross sweatpants or WORSE pajama pants its seriously cringeworthy and totally disrespectful to both the professors and other students.

Great post!!

b is for brown said...

I do agree. People are getting quite lazy with their style.
And if I see someone wearing jammy pants, I might lose it!

Kelly said...

oh i agree! i'm like you, any and every chance i get to dress up {not ball gowns but on the nicer side} i do...i even make up excuses haha

this post is awesome. i like that you speak your mind :)

Southern Champagne Wishes said...

Love this post! There is nothing worse than going to a nice restaurant and seeing people in shorts and t-shirts (or worse, sweatpants). Yes, I have seen both of these things and it annoys me to no end. Oh, yes, and then you have the people (usually the same ones) that are holding their fork like a dagger, stabbed into their filet mignon (presumably so it won't run away).

Stephanie ♥ said...

I totally agree!! And can we please retire the Ugg boots already?

Also- love that you're a republican as well. Young Republican's who dislike sweats outside of gyms and the comfort of our own living quarters are rare. *high fives all around*

Starfish and Sundresses said...

I'm with you!! I never once wore sweatpants to class all through college. I'm proud that i didn't succumb. I also love to dress up to go out to dinner, it makes it more special!

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youngwivestales said...

OMG soooo agree! I almost feel overdressed everywhere I go! I always have, but I know I look fab so whatev, people have less class now adays!

love your blog!

xox
tanya

OceanDreams said...

Hi love, thanks for entering into my giveaway and this was a really good post to blog about. My opinion is that there is a certain place and time to wear baggy jeans and I think dressing appropriately is key. I think girls are sloppy dressers now a days and they don't care about their appearance, which is sad. I too like to dress up occasionally or at least dress for the occasion. I usually at least wore jeans or sometime nice to class, but I admit I had my mornings where I just wore sweats, but not all day long. Lol, oh well, I guess comfort can be fashion too, but I agree with you that it is still fun to dress up!

Kris said...

I agree about the sweatpants. Enough already!

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Savvy Gal said...

i know what you mean. my sister was super offended when someone wore something close to sweats to her wedding..... : (

tickledpink said...

I totally agree! I like to dress up too, and will find any excuse to dress up! One thing that bothers me is seeing a guy with his shirt untucked. I just don't like it. I like to see his shirt in with a belt. I remember a few people in college wearing pj bottoms to 8 am classse. Regardless how early it was, or if I had not had any sleep I wouldn't be caught dead in pj's to class! Great post!

sarah said...

OMG. I could not agree more. I live by the motto that it is always better to be over-dressed. I could not fathom going to dinner in jeans and flip flops or jeans and a t-shirt. It is absolutely disrespectful to the restaurant you are going to, the person serving you, the other restaurant patrons and the people you are dining with!

Sweet, Sassy, Southern and Classy said...

Looks like you've struck a chord! I couldn't agree more. My friends sometimes laugh and give me a hard time because I always like to feel put together and look my best, even if it's a very early class. It just makes me feel better about myself and I feel ready to face the day, whatever it may bring.

I'm not sure if this is an issue on your campus, but what drives me absolutely INSANE is when girls wear leggings. I don't understand when they became acceptable "pants". The "trend" seems to be leggings, Uggs, super long, oversized tshirts and a puffy vest. EW! I just want to scream "You do not look fashionable OR cute! And I'm tired of looking at your cellulite!" However, that would be very rude of me. I'm glad I can vent a little bit here.

Miss Southern Prep said...

I completely agree! I never, ever wear sweatpants unless I'm going to the gym. Like you said, I always try to look my best because I never know who I'm going to see. I would much rather take the time to dress up and put a little effort into myself to feel good rather than feel/look like a slob.

KatieBug said...

People underdressed at restaurants are the WORST! That's why you've got to find the places with the signs warning you about the dress code as soon as you walk in, lol. Jeans at Applebee's? Yes. Jeans at a five-star restaurant? No. I always have a hard time on holidays now, because my stepdad's family is SO casual. In my family, we ALWAYS get dressed up for the holidays. On Easter, I wore a very nice Sunday dress, but even the kids were running around in t-shirts!

 

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