Tuesday, August 30, 2011
Words of Wisdom From an Almost College Graduate
I have had several requests via Tumblr and SummerWind41490@gmail.com to do a post on what I've learned throughout my years in high school and college. Being that I am entering my senior year of college, I am no expert but I have learned a few words of wisdom worth sharing with high school and college-aged women--some a little silly, but most very valuable.
Don't gossip. You are better than that and above that. If you dislike someone, keep it to yourself and always be polite and considerate of others' feelings. Use your manners. If you must-- kill them with kindness.
Do your best in everything that you do and look your best doing it. Maybe you're not good at math, but that still doesn't mean you should blow off studying for that test because you think you will fail it. If you love to dance and have stage fright, get on stage and smile, because if you look your best, people will be less likely to notice your flaws.
Don't swear or use inappropriate/crass language. It's not flattering and not lady-like. Teens and young adults are known for swearing and inappropriate language and I can't say that I've never said something I wish I hadn't. Work on expressing your feelings in a way that doesn't make you sound like you are a slob. Speaking in an inappropriate manner is not cool and won't make you more popular.
Even if you aren't religious, don't believe in God, don't go to church, etc. Pray. Even if you don't believe in it, it will help you sort your thoughts and get you through life. Having faith in something/anything will help you to live a richer life.
Always forgive. Even if it takes you a while, always forgive everyone and anyone because holding a grudge and not forgiving is only hurting you in the long run.
If a guy truly loves you, he'll do anything to keep you around.
Always be polite, use your manners, say please and thank you, write thank you notes, be hospitable, be welcoming and be outgoing. However, never let someone walk all over you, take advantage of you, or coerce you to do something you don't want to. Have a voice when necessary and stick up for yourself.
Go to class, take notes, study because it will get you where you need to be in life, and someday, when you don't get to go to class anymore, you will actually miss it.
Travel. Whenever you get the chance, go and see the world--even if it's only to the next town over.
If possible experience luxury. Wear perfume, wear diamond earrings.Order the filet mignon and lobster. Keep warm in a cashmere sweater. Keep your belongings in a leather handbag. Fly first class. Have a spa day. But never over extend yourself or your budget to experience luxury. If you can't afford those things then splurge one day on your favorite coffee or dessert. Save for months or even years to take the trip you've always dreamed of. Luxury can be something as simple as ordering take out for your favorite meal instead of cooking.
This isn't my quote, but I have had it saved for a long time and it couldn't be more true: "Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are."
While we're on the subject of quotes, I think Mother Theresa said it best...
People are often unreasonable and self-centered.
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people will accuse you of ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.
If you are honest, people may cheat you.
Be honest anyway.
If you find happiness, people may be jealous.
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough.
Give your best anyway.
For you see, in the end, it is between you and God.
It never was between you and them anyway.
What are your words of wisdom and important lessons that you have learned in your life? Have a fabulous day!