Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Words of Wisdom From an Almost College Graduate

I have had several requests via Tumblr and SummerWind41490@gmail.com to do a post on what I've learned throughout my years in high school and college. Being that I am entering my senior year of college, I am no expert but I have learned a few words of wisdom worth sharing with high school and college-aged women--some a little silly, but most very valuable.

The absolute number one thing I have learned is that your family is your family for a reason. They are the ones that will be there for you no matter what. Through thick and thin, sickness and health, rich or poor, happy or sad--they will always be there for you and that is something to be truly treasured and valued. Cherish the time you spend with your family, take pictures with your family and never be embarrassed of your family.

The second thing is that your parents are always right. I said it. It's out there. They're right. You may think they're dead wrong, but you'll find in the long run that they are always right. It may take days, weeks, months, and even years to figure out that they are right, but they always are. You might not like what they are telling you, you might not want to hear what they are saying, but they are right. Something as simple as you're mom telling you that she thinks you should change your outfit to something as serious as your mom telling you that you shouldn't be with a certain guy or you're dad telling you that spending your money on that ____ (fill in the blank) is not worth it .

You know that saying... "Nothing good happens after 2am"?Well, it just might be true. When the bars are closed, when the party is over, when everyone goes home, it is time for you to go home as well.

When you get a feeling of envy because someone has more than you do (money, material possessions, better looking, etc.), try to put your life into perspective. Someone out there will always have more than you, but there are many who have a lot less. Count your blessings and remember all of the wonderful things in life that make you feel blessed.

Smoking will kill you. There is absolutely no reason to start smoking. It is gross. It makes your breath smell, makes you cough, ruins your lungs, turns your teeth yellow and empties your wallet. Take it from someone who lost their grandfather from smoking. Back in our grandparents day, they weren't lucky enough to know that smoking was bad for them. At this day in age we are very lucky that science has proven that cigarettes will cause you health problems. If you truly love your friends and family and want to live a long and healthy life, then you will not take up smoking. The same goes for drugs and alcohol abuse. Drugs are illegal for a reason and alcohol should only be drunk in moderation. Never, ever, drive under the influence of anything.  period.

Don't gossip. You are better than that and above that. If you dislike someone, keep it to yourself and always be polite and considerate of others' feelings.  Use your manners. If you must-- kill them with kindness. 

Separate your true friends from your acquaintances. All "friends" are not to be trusted. It takes a true, loyal, considerate friend to confide in. Realize that a very true, good hearted friend will only want to see you happy. They will never gossip about you, they will never judge you and they will love you for who you are. A good friend will never create  any drama in your life. They will never make you choose them over another friend or a guy or your family. They will be there for you in the happy moments to celebrate but they will also always be there in the rough moments to get you through them. If you have a friend/friends like this, cherish them and don't ever let them go. Make sure you give them the same respect and care.

Vote. Because not everyone everywhere has that option.

Do your best in everything that you do and look your best doing it. Maybe you're not good at math, but that still doesn't mean you should blow off studying for that test because you think you will fail it. If you  love to dance and have stage fright, get on stage and smile, because if you look your best, people will be less likely to notice your flaws.

Don't swear or use inappropriate/crass language. It's not flattering and not lady-like. Teens and young adults are known for swearing and inappropriate language and I can't say that I've never said something I wish I hadn't. Work on expressing your feelings in a way that doesn't make you sound like you are a slob. Speaking in an inappropriate manner is not cool and won't make you more popular.

Even if you aren't religious, don't believe in God, don't go to church, etc. Pray. Even if you don't believe in it, it will help you sort your thoughts and get you through life. Having faith in something/anything will help you to live a richer life.

Whenever you get yourself in a situation where it is appropriate to tip someone for their services, if you get adequate or good service, tip well because those people rely on those tips to support themselves.

Always forgive. Even if it takes you a while, always forgive everyone and anyone because holding a grudge and not forgiving is only hurting you in the long run. 

If a guy truly loves you, he'll do anything to keep you around.

Always be polite, use your manners, say please and thank you, write thank you notes, be hospitable, be welcoming and be outgoing. However, never let someone walk all over you, take advantage of you, or coerce you to do something you don't want to. Have a voice when necessary and stick up for yourself.

Go to class, take notes, study because it will get you where you need to be in life, and someday, when you don't get to go to class anymore, you will actually miss it.

If you don't already nap, before you go to college, learn to nap. Learn to take quick naps, long naps, and learn to nap anywhere and everywhere.

 Overdress rather than under-dress. Keeping your appearance and being well put-together shows that you have self respect and love for your body. 

Travel. Whenever you get the chance, go and see the world--even if it's only to the next town over. 

If possible experience luxury. Wear perfume, wear diamond earrings.Order the filet mignon and lobster. Keep warm in a cashmere sweater. Keep your belongings in a leather handbag. Fly first class. Have a spa day. But never over extend yourself or your budget to experience luxury. If you can't afford those things then splurge one day on your favorite coffee or dessert. Save for months or even years to take the trip you've always dreamed of. Luxury can be something as simple as ordering take out for your favorite meal instead of cooking.

This isn't my quote, but I have had it saved for a long time and it couldn't be more true: "Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are." 

While we're on the subject of quotes, I think Mother Theresa said it best...
People are often unreasonable and self-centered.
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people will accuse you of ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.
If you are honest, people may cheat you.
Be honest anyway.
If you find happiness, people may be jealous.
Be happy anyway.

The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough.
Give your best anyway.
For you see, in the end, it is between you and God.
It never was between you and them anyway.
-Mother Teresa

What are your words of wisdom and important lessons that you have learned in your life? Have a fabulous day!


Portuguese Prepster said...

This is one of my all time favorite posts. As a college third year, I completely agree with each and very single one. I will be passing this along to my friends!

Lindsey said...

Thank you for this post. These are great pieces of advice. I especially wish that someone would have told me to separate my friends from acquaintances, because it is very important to know who you can trust! Have a great Tuesday.

Anonymous said...

You are very wise beyond your years, young lady! I suspect you'll be well-prepared to conquer the world when you finish college. Best of luck to you during this exciting senior year!

AlinaF said...

what a great post!!!!!!!!!!

Kate Elmes said...

Love this post. Amazing advice that every young woman should follow. I am excited to see what adventures senior year brings you and even more so, what you do after school.

Just Jess said...

Perfect post!--from another college senior.

Unknown said...

I love this post! I agree with all of your points...thanks for sharing :)

Anne said...

Fabulous, fabulous advice - and so true. Your parents clearly raised you right, and I'm sure they'll love their shout out. :)

Anonymous said...

You are such a wise young lady - your parents should be so proud - best wishes on your last-first day!

I love that you quoted Mother Teresa - she is one of my inspirations and definitely helped to change the world for the better with her wisdom, faith, and love.

Have a wonderful week and year!
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Buckhead Belle said...

Great words of wisdom for college girls and career girls alike!

Meg said...

I'm a long time follower and will also be a senior in college this fall, and this is far and away my favorite post you've done yet. I also intern at a college blog, and this is one of the best senior reflections I've read. Thanks so much for writing this - it really sums up what I learned in college as well, and it's great advice for younger girls who are just starting college.

Caroline said...

What a fantastic post.. thank you for this.

Kristine Elizabeth said...

This was an amazing post!

Royar said...

I absolutely love this post sCe! Such great advice - everyone needs to read this! XO

Legally Brunette Kate said...

Excellent advice! And I love that little photo with the friends sitting at the counter...I'm passing that along to my bff.


Anonymous said...

I loved this, I really enjoyed this and learned a lot. You are a great role model to young ladies like me and it is really nice to be able to look up to someone who takes pride in their appearance and character!

Unknown said...

You give amazing advice!! Great post!!!

Sierra said...

Love this post, especially about experiencing everyday luxuries. Diamonds, perfume, matching bra and panties, cashmere....all can really change your day. Also separating your friends from acquaintances.

The Aly Way said...

This is an extremely well done post. I will definitely recommend many read it! Happy start to the school year Summer Wind :)

Raising a Southern Girl said...

My Sweet Southern College Daughter showed me your Blog because of all the adorable clothes, fun preppy updates, etc...But you just won my heart with your wonderful Words Of Wisdom that I know I have said 100 times but coming from a peer will be reinforced and ring true. Your parents can be so proud of not only a beautiful outside but inside as well daughter. THANK YOU! A Southern Mom Proud to be Raising a Southern Daughter

Alexandra Bee Blog said...

Wow, what an incredible post! I agree so much with it all--thanks for taking the time to write this!

Kayla Michelle said...

My goodness looking back at this again reminds me why you are my role model <3


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